RIP April 10 2017; A Message to A Distanced Brother I Still Forgive

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High expectations, low resolve.

I know I’ve been hard on him all my life and sometimes it was hard to set aside our differences, majority of the time. I believe throughout his life he’s had this conflict of expecting a lot but never settling for less than what he wanted to see happen. His resolve to settle was always less than what he expected to see in life. He was use to being hand fed by a silver spoon, living off the silver lining of life and when things got tough because the stars didn’t align for him he gave up.

We grew up pretty poor growing up and he was a favored child all the years I knew him. I’ll continue to roast him in his passing because that opportunity to do so has passed. He was my young kid brother and he had so much more coming to him. There’s so much frustration and misunderstanding of who we were and what we were in life to each other.

I dreamed he visit once just recently. I was resuscitating him in the dream, and he came to life again. He kissed my forehead and said “Stupid”. A very normal answer based on profound knowledge of who he was. I was tearing up, I wanted to say so much but all I could think of was how selfish he was.. how much of an idiot he was to leave us the way he did. How hard it was for my parents to let him go – no parent should bury their kid.

I always saw him in a heroic light, I sometimes referenced him to the redeemed exiled king of “Lord of The Rings” King Aragorn. I had bought him a Aragorn replica sword for his room in 2010 (?) with all the money I had made working banquets for The Shaw Conference Center.  He in exchange never bought anyone anything in the family for the years I knew him. I know it was hard to pull out the money for special occasions to buy something for someone no matter how cheap or stupid the idea was.  I would have liked anything he would have pulled out just to say I got something from him.

He was solitary, spoke little unless it was about business or monetary gain, judgmental and most of all closed off his life to people in his family. I wrote a poem as a memorandum to our loss. It was the best I could do, I hope it would reach him where ever he was. I couldn’t understand who he was in the end and what drove him to be who he was at the end of all this. He was an enigma to me even in the end. He was just my kid brother in the end no matter how he treated us and behaved I didn’t care. I just lost a chance and opportunity to redeem my kid brother.. The glimmer of hope that we would resolve the friction and conflict between us as kids in the end.

I hate how he was so calm and collected talking about what he was about to do before he passed away. He was so smug, he really needed that smack on the head. To wake up and realize that it was his life he was talking about and it effected everyone around him also. Everyone who knew him and worried for him would be effected. But even after all that, never visiting me at the hospital while i was there – I guess he was just going through too much stuff and struggling with his own life to reach out to me.

Even after all that, I forgive him. I just hope he gets everything coming to him. Our frustrations, anger and especially our love. I hope that guy finds peace. I wish him well.

NN.

We Are a Product of Our Work

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  1. We are a product of our work.

You are what you make of life. In the end it’s what you’ve done, the kindness you’ve spread and the hearts you touched that makes logical sense in life – but most importantly, who you become is immediately significant. Life is about the people you meet, yes this is true, but you are the product of all these interactions that make you grow, being a result and product of all things that have come. All things that influenced you as you figured out and sorted problems after problems to become solutions. Turning dirt, molding it to become gold in your eyes. Making something from nothing. Doing something surprisingly great and beautiful despite all odds and what tools and things you have to work with. This is the philosophy of the lotus being born in a barren dirty place as the swamp and blooming into a beautiful flower out of no where.

All the things we have done, all the work we put in, all the people we interacted with to get where we are today. This is what we have taken for granted. People don’t see the impact of their actions and kindness but as we grow more mature and thoughtful this results in development refining of character. We become more respectful and polite in order to resolve common conflicts that could be dealt with easily with simple decency. If we remember our goals and keep our personal plans for ourselves focused at heart and strive for these resulting projects consistently persevering, we will surely get where we want to go in life and collect all the rewards that we sowed in the end. Keeping in mind that we can’t please everyone but we should still aim to be selfless and generously giving. Not everyone has the human interest in mind.

Despite the fact that not everyone has good intentions, we can only help the few that care and spread acts of kindness and behaviors. Focusing on the here and now, we prioritized our love ones and make preferences to enjoy and allow the joy in our life to flourish. Allowing our love and happiness and our justice and peace to prosper. We have worked our method and analyzed our directions and conflicts and this is what we found in the end. In chronological order these are the conflicts but also profound virtuous solutions I have come to conclude..

 

My Journey’s Stellar Pin-Pointed Gems:

Life: Be Yourself.

Dream: Follow your heart.

Self: Build and learn. One lesson at a time.

Light: Shine in the Dark. When all good is amiss, be the light in the dark.

Redemption of Alphonse: Stand for the Truth.

 

Loyalty: Think of what you can offer by building faith in one another.

Trust: Respect and think of others but be smart but caring.

Authority: Be the invisible hand that gives hope. (Be bold, have courage and be strong).

Wisdom: Find the fine silver lining path (to understand, contemplate and comprehend the truth) To resolve the truth.

Redemption of Omegan: Legitimacy and Credibility.

 

Hope begets Faith. Faith begets Compassion. Compassion begets Love. Loves begets Grace. Grace brings forth the Redemption.

Hope: I sought to practice and I intended to build bridges.

Faith: I sought to understand the world and my wool was covered in soot of taint. I remind myself that there is hope in the end if I have faith.

Compassion: I sought to nurture the world and started giving. I remind myself that with great faith in the end I will have compassion.

Love: I sought to care for the world and started understanding myself, others and the world around me. I remind myself that with compassion in the end I will have love.

Grace: I sought to do good in the world and I started offering my services to God and The Heavens. I remind myself that with love in the end I will arrive with grace.

Redemption of Christwey: I sought to change life for the better and I gave my heart to everyone. I have forsaken the angel in my heart but one day I will be fruitful with my work.

 

Love: I’ve found love, it is in the people.

Peace: I’ve found peace, it is in acceptance of my reality on Earth.

Justice: I’ve found justice. I look to solve love, peace and happiness for the self and others. A person should stand for good on the bold and narrow path.

Happiness: I’ve found happiness,  I found the Truth in myself.

Composure: I’ve found composure, I look at stability and try to balance my life.

Temperance: I’ve found temperance, I seek inside me to find what it is I can offer.

Solution: I’ve found the solution, I believed that there was a way and would plot my points, draw my lines and that would make my paths in life.

LIFE – The Many Contemplated Faces

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This past month I learned many things..

I’ve learned that life is not about the objective as often retold of in jobs but in possibilities in the culture of life. It’s about finding solutions in the class of the best case scenarios. I believe that even though the beauty of scenarios are often trivial. They are often in the form of exotic novelties of possibilities and majority of times, things are not always as they seem. It is in the balance of having both objective and possibilities that allows a person to live a normal life. If we believed that our destiny lay in the variety of paths that we can take then there will be endless waves of ways that a path can end. If we believe our fate lay in objectives then we will only fulfill sometimes menial and/or big tasks, endless or no.

“Don’t live in your head”. I learned this small phrase by listening to my heart. I kept on trying to create stories in my head and worlds beyond my comprehension. I eventually came to an idea that life was limitless and endless. I tried to understand why life was so circular and perfect and why there was numberless patterns to the amount of variables. And with the combination of “Keep it simple” I realize that the luxury of intricate detail is unimportant in a system of life. I believe that living in your head can be harmful to yourself and that you need to get out into the world in order to get out of old bad habits. The lavish life of beautiful scenery and lustrous luxury is a damned life if you can’t keep up, so you keep it simple and pay for a modest upkeep and life should be good.

Don’t let dreams die never experienced. This is contemplated thought I have been sitting on for a while. I’ve always wondered about the quote “Live life like it’s your last” and “If you’re going to go. Go out with a bang”.. they have me questioning what type of life I want to really live. I have another quote that tells me to “Stay sharp” but sharpening up all your life can make the life you live dull. Harness your thoughts but live life to the fullest would be a suggestion best suited to this situation. You’ve only got one life, live it full and to it’s capacity limit. 

This world really is not about just having a life, but about sharing experiences. Life can be devastating sometimes and there will be tricky hurdles to be had. We must cultivate our bodies and spirits to resolve these obstacles in life. Life should always be about helping others see more good experiences in life. To spread the load and help people see the good in life. We are all human beings in this life and we are made all in the same likeness, based on the human composition. We are beings of light, of kindness, of thoughtfulness and seek self education through life. We are now figuring out good thoughts and patterns to explore the world of experiences, knowledge and mindfulness.

Finally, “Practice what you preach”. Lastly is this, if you speak a certain thing and cannot figure a way to express it in a form of practice, manner and way for it to exist then why bother preaching it at all. Figure out who you are and know your limit, break things down in segments and take life in small portions. You should never over reach and stretch yourself thin trying to accomplish things that are above you all in one shot. Life is about the practice which is the most important part of any activity. It is in the practice of life that you learn to fix your life. Help yourself to help others.

We are determined to win.

These things are what we came to contemplate. Possibility not objectives. Don’t live in your head. Don’t let dreams die never experienced. Shared experience. Practice what you preach. This is all.

It’s about possibility not objectives. Don’t live you life in your head

Nam,

I would say that to live once, right and full is better than living a thousand wrong lives and never finding the right life to live.

Tai Lopez Notes for Chp: 17 “About life”: More grind is better grind.

Do you know anyone who has put in the hours of work and gained nothing from it? Even your extra efforts can be converted to acts of charity. No one’s extra work is ever in vein.

Altruism is the act of being selfless and devoting time to show that you care. We need more of it.

To be a leader you can’t just outsource life it comes with heroic efforts.

The grind will bring great products to your very life.

Live life, put the hours in the work and you’ll find happiness.

Untrick your mind try to not be bothered by that mentality that makes you think the grind is bad you need to pave a road to the city. You need to make your way to the place where all things meet, the crossroad of much activity. This is the place where you make dreams happen.

Happiness can be found experiential and in the moment. The grind will bring memory happiness. The extremes of what you had to do to get there and the sacrifices you made will help you get to that happiness.

Don’t be excited to do something only 4 hours and hate doing that thing. Make it so that you want to increase the hours. Spend more hours into that thing you like doing best.